The myth of the finished leader keeps good people quiet. Waiting to feel whole before you take responsibility is a way of never taking it.
Clarity beats charisma. Tell your team what you can commit to this quarter and what you cannot. People do not need a hero; they need a reliable signal.
Set the standard in public and your recovery in private. Boundaries are not distance — they are the reason you are still here next year.
Leadership after hardship has one advantage nobody advertises: you know exactly what it costs to keep a promise. Charge accordingly, and keep them.